In a doctor’s waiting room, a very talkative grandmother tries to get her granddaughter’s attention. The 15 year old tries to read. The dialogue goes like this:
– You can read your book at home.
– I can read and listen to you at the sane time, grandmother. I finally learned how to do it.
– You can keep your book. In my younger days, I was reading books all night long. I was 18.
– I am 15, grandmother.
– You can still read your book at home. What’s in you backpack?
– School things.
– Look at this! The grandmother seems surprised by the way the girl’s colorful backpack is made.
She then goes on about the lost value of Christmas, her neighbor crazy driving, religious tolerance … .
The appointment was for the young lady. I thought “How sweet! The grandmother accompanied her grandchild!” I almost wished she would never stop talking. I wished she would turn to me to get me to listen while waiting for her granddaughter to come out of the doctor’s office.
Then I got it. It’s their special thing: a 85 year old grandmother – 15 year old granddaughter dialogue, tune, reverberation.
Here is to all sweet grandmothers-granddaughters joy of sharing!
One morning, couple of weeks ago I was about to enter a coffee shop next to my hotel for a dose of ristretto. The door opened suddenly and an angry woman pushed a girl out. A paper cup was on the floor. Coffee was spilled around. A taxi was in front. The lady was in a hurry. The girl looked ashamed, eyes on her hand. The door of the taxi slammed and the scene disappeared around the corner. All this – in 30 seconds.
I thought to my self : 30 seconds to start a day. To spend with your child ahead of a busy day for both… The coffee was definitely not for the child. Although she seemed to have been put in charge of it.
There is no judgement here. It was a reminder to self that as parents we need to maintain our awareness that children mirror our behaviour. Studies and research show it extensively for the still skeptical ones.
If we are in a hurry and angry and things start falling, it’s us, the adults.
If we prioritise the concern over a spilled coffee instead of a burned finger, we, adults, set an example.
If we start the day with a smile and a belief that we have time for everything, it’s us, the adults.
If we show concern over the child’s concerns, we set an example as a grown-up human to a growing up human.
A clean mirror gives a clear image. Up to us, adults, to keep it clean.
This piece is sharp as a scalpel. The type of writing to which i secretly aspire to.
Thank you, Jordan Reid, for the inspiration.
“Being a parent is different from being a friend, and it’s different from being a boss. You want to be both, but the truth is that you’re neither — you’re something in between, and something much more.”
Sometimes all you have to do is open a door.
Last week, I opened the door into the world of a French artist. His name is Rachid Madani. His studio is in Strasbourg. I often passed by his studio and admired the pastel, warm colours of his creations. I wanted to buy some of his wonderful cards. I love to have a stock to give them to friends to say thank you or just mark a moment.
I pushed the door and was greeted with a warm pastel voice. My daugher joined me so he spoke to us about the book he wrote "Le turban du sultan" and about his culture.
I did not have cash with me so had to borrow some from my kid's pocket money. "I did the same this morning", he told us in a moment of complicity. He offered her one of his cards "Le jour se leve".
If you are in Strasbourg, open the door to l'atelier d'Art MADANI, 16, rue Sleidan.
More info on the artist, in French https://www.petitfute.com/v458-strasbourg-67000/c1168-shopping-mode-cadeaux/c408-galerie-d-art/242980-l-atelier-d-art-madani.html
– Tomorrow is Family day!, announced our kid on a determined tone. I have plans for us.
A feeling of glory flourished inside me. I would not have to compete with the iPad for her time on Sunday!
We started the day in the park. We had a guest for breakfast.
We baked rolled oats cookies of two kinds: with chocolate chips and with raisens. We played cards. She won. We played table games. I won. And we talked about playing for fun and not for winning. And also about fair-play.
We created cute beads stuff.
We ate raisins and watched Ted Talks about nutrition.
We jumped on the bed, played with the ribbon stick, and had lots of tickling. Made puzzles and origami rabbits for friends and lots of other fun staff.
Fully disconnected. No smart phones. Just smart and cute faces.
Enjoy your family time. Today. And everyday.
– What’s the movie about, sweety?
– Never give up!
Indeed, it is. I warmly recommend to watch it on a family movie night. It is highly motivational and funny. It is the story of an upbeat koala, a theater owner gone from the glory to washing cars at a cross-road and back again to glory, by loving deeply what he did and doing it wholeheartedly for the public – small and big.
Sing is a 2016 American 3D computer-animated musical comedy film produced by Illumination Entertainment. The film includes more than 60 songs from famous artists and also has an original song by Stevie Wonder and Ariana Grande called “Faith,” which was nominated for a Golden Globe
Enjoy! You’ll be singing for days after!