The key is always – treat children as you’d like to be treated. “Stop this or that” creates walls, between children and parents, between children and their peers. It takes then years to demolish the walls. We can, instead, create gardens of feelings, of different colours and flavours and shades and learn how to cultivate understanding and resilience.

http://happinessishereblog.com/2017/01/10-things-say-instead-stop-crying/