She knew she was not a desired child from her first breath. She knew it when a sea wave claimed her life. She knew it when a racing car touched the tip of her hair and her six years of life glimpsed in a second before her eyes.
Reading some stories on http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Was-An-Unwanted-Child/684952 made me realise that parents deprive their children of their inner confidence because they themselves lack it. They do not cherish their lives enough to be able to share love and behave accordingly with their progenies. It’s not about the child. It’s about the parent. The parent is the one in need of help. If he/she wants it.
‚You get what you give’ is a basic rule of life. What can an unwanted child give back to his/her parents? Many will lower and respond with the same rejection, anger and egoism.
Many will rise above and bless them. As I did. It was a long way but it was immensely worth it, as it brought me peace and love. I gained back my power. It came from the understanding that while it’s true that back then I had no choices, I do have a choice now.
Unwanted children are a gift to themselves, this is my pronouncement. They are survivers. Thanks to John Medina (Brain Rules for Baby: How to Raise a Smart and Happy Child from Zero to Five) and Louise Hay I understood that my brain worked harder to claim my right to live and to prosper and to love, namely because it felt threatened.
It takes time and effort to reinstate your inner child where it belongs – in a loving heart.
It can be your own heart or the heart of your loved and desired child. Your child and your inner child will be a great company to each other – I know it firsthand :).